Staying so busy that you have little time for your spouse
When issues come up your first reflex or response is to blame your spouse
Withholding love from your spouse
Withholding praise from your spouse
Withholding sex from your spouse or not being present during sex
Withholding spiritual connection from your spouse
Unwilling or unable to share your authentic feelings with your spouse
Using anger or silence to control your spouse
Having ongoing or ungrounded criticism (spoken or unspoken) towards your spouse
Controlling or shaming your spouse regarding money or spending